Summer Week 7 & 8 - A sad attempt at Dinosaurs & Space

Monday, July 25, 2016

Before Ellie was born and until she was about five months old, I was really good about keeping up with our family blog. I wanted to make sure that all of the amazing things that happened to our family every day would never be forgotten. With so much going on it's easy to forget about the daily things that happen, the things that make us smile and the things that make us cry. I kept track of my adventure as my dad became more and more sick and eventually when he died. I kept track of all the silly things Sophia did and said as she went from being a baby to an adorable toddler.  I kept track of our struggles as we planned to have another baby and the excitement of finding out Ellie was coming to us. I kept track of Ellie's first few months.

Then something happened. It was unexpected, to say the least. It wasn't one of those life events that you know right away will change everything forever. It was more like a non-event and yet from that moment until very recently, this blog was put aside to make room for it.

One night I was scrolling through Facebook and I had a request from a friend to "like" her new page. I liked it without really looking at it that carefully. It was a "Jamberry" page...whatever that meant. I saw a picture or two of the products and thought "these are weird, do people really wear them?" About a minute later Heather messaged me to ask if I would be interested in hosting a Jamberry Facebook party. I still didn't really understand what Jamberry was and I definitely didn't know what a Facebook party was but she offered to send me some free products so I said yes. I hosted a party that wasn't super successful and I knew that when it was over, she would ask me if I wanted to join.  I didn't. I had never done direct sales nor did I have any desire to be "that person". When the message came, I was ready to say "no" until I read the part about how much success she had had in the short time since she became a consultant. It made me think.

After my Dad died, my perspective on life changed.  It was super clear to me that we are not promised tomorrow. Every moment is precious and I wanted to spend as many precious moments as I could with my family.  So, I approached Ken about the possibility of using Jamberry to pay for someone to clean our house a couple of times a week. That way I didn't have to waste any of my Saturday time doing that dreaded chore! He was in and so was I!

I'll be honest, I didn't have a great reception by family friends when I announced that I was doing this.  It's not that anyone spoke out against it, I just didn't have an outpouring of orders or requests for parties like a lot of people did.  That never stopped me though! Since the beginning, I've thought outside the box, pushed myself outside of my comfort zone, and persisted to make the most out of what I'm doing.

Still, within the first couple of months I was making enough to pay for the cleaning people. I was good with that.  I didn't have expectations or hopes beyond that $200/month. Until I did ;) That January, after meeting a goal and receiving a promotion, my upline bought me a Jamberry hoodie as a "congrats" gift.  When she brought it to me, we talked about the business a little.  She told me that she heard that there were women with Jamberry that were making $15,000/month. (Funny enough, in retrospect that number is pretty small compared to the money many women are actually making now.  Not me (yet) but many many women) Then she said "Can you imagine?  You could quit your JOB!". Oh my gosh. I could QUIT MY JOB.  Don't get me wrong, I LOVED teaching.  That job gave me so much joy. Still, it kept me away from my kids. I now had a new mission: Make as much money as it would take to quit my job without having to sacrifice our standard of living.

Before having Sophia, I never imagined that I would be someone who would want to stay home.  I mean, I have two bachelor's degrees and a master's for crying out loud! Then I had Sophia and that changed. I'll never forget that first day that I had to leave my baby to go to work.  It felt so wrong.  Just as it did each year when the summer ended and I had to go back.  It's not that I didn't want to work, I just didn't want to miss anything.

So, I got to busy. I figured out a schedule where I could get in the hours I needed to build a solid, sustainable, and growing business.  In those months that I was still teaching, I actually DID miss out on time with my family. Even then I knew that if I wanted to reach my ultimate goal, I was going to have to make some sacrifices. SHORT-TERM SACRIFICE FOR LONG-TERM GAINS. On March 25th, 2014, I did it.  I got a promotion that would give me the minimum income I needed to quit my job.  I remember thinking that I was pretty bad-ass. I wanted to stay home, there was NO way that could happen if things stayed as they were, so I MADE IT HAPPEN in a different way. That was the first time I realized that my life can be exactly whatever I want it to be. I don't have to follow anyone else's path. I can make my own path.

In the last 2+ years that I've been home, it hasn't always been easy.  Direct Sales is a proven business model.  It's cyclical and there are certainly ebbs and flows. It's a business where you have to rely on the resilience and determination of others to reach your own goals. There have been many women that have joined me on this journey that have never had success, that have had some success then let the business go, and that have worked hard from day 1. I'm grateful to all of them and to all those that will join me in the future. There have certainly been moments where I thought I made the wrong choice to put all my eggs in this nail-basket but in the end, there is no way, no how I will ever quit. Put aside the potential (6+ figure income selling nail products part-time? Yes please!), I will never quit because I know that being home is where I'm meant to be.

Working my Jamberry business means that I can be home with my babies WHILE I use my creativity, set goals, CRUSH my goals, help other women, reach for the stars, and fulfill my own need to be professionally successful. I am able to make my own schedule where I put my family and personal obligations first then schedule everything else around them. I am able to design a life I love.

All that being said, I work very, very hard. With some encouragement (and because I always seem to think I have more time than I do) I opened my own custom party decoration business called Joy and Jubilee.  PLUS, I took on a challenge to open a chapter of Polka Dot Powerhouse in Las Cruces. To say the least, the limited free time I once had is now GONE.

As you know I started this summer with the intention of keeping my girls learning and busy for as much of the summer as I could.  There were several reasons for this: 1) I absolutely didn't want them watching TV all summer; 2) They both learned so much in school last year and I didn't want them to lose it; 3) I need time to work and if they are working on projects, they are entertained, quiet, and content; 4) (most importantly) They will only be this age once. Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in awhile, you could miss it. (Thanks Ferris)

For the first 6 weeks, I did an amazing job at keeping up with my themes and projects. Even the girls recognized that this summer was turning out to be something special. The last two weeks though, I've failed big time. I've had so many deadlines with all three of my ventures, special events, meetings, deliveries, etc.  Week 7 was supposed to be all about Dinosaurs.  I started the week by letting them watch The Land Before Time.  I also found a few dinosaur related activities that they could do by themselves. We were meant to go to the library and the museum but never made it.  The next week was Space week. Epic fail. Each night that ended a day with no activities, I felt terrible. I hate to not follow through on things. I hate to feel like I'm putting aside my kids to work. BUT I have to remind myself that I'm doing the best I can. There is only so much time in each day, despite planning, scheduling, and prioritizing. I have to remind myself that this is ALL FOR THEM. If I don't do what needs to be done, I don't get to stay home.  It's just that simple.  So while I feel guilty for missing out on those two weeks of memories, those  two weeks will help pay for the next several months of memories. SHORT-TERM SACRIFICE FOR LONG-TERM GAINS.

Last week, I had just finished up some work and was starting to clean up the kitchen before I went to a meeting. Sophia came in and asked if I could come play since I was done with my work.  I've talked to her before about my "work". I've told her that sometimes I have to work from home so that I can stay home with her and Ellie.  That day I explained that in addition to my jobs as a "Jamberry seller" and "Joy & Jubilee" maker, as she calls them, I also have another job that is the most important of all - Wife & Mother.  She walked over, put her hands around my waist, and said "Thank you for working so hard for us." I think I'm doing a good job with that one ;)

This week consists of a few loose ends to tie up, quite a bit of follow-up, and a little outreach.  I should wrap up by Tuesday which leaves me with one, very important day to spend with my babies before Ken and I head to Vegas for the weekend!  I'm not perfect, I don't always have it all together, but as long as I can cut myself a break and keep the big picture in mind, I can continue doing this forever.  And as long as my babies know they are loved, the learn to work hard, never give up, be grateful, and treat people with kindness I'm doing my job well.




 



 
 
 







Summer Week 6- SummerSummerSummer + Freedom & Bravery Cont.

Friday, July 8, 2016

Summer, summer, SUMMERTIME!!  We got our SUMMER ON this week!!  Since Ken's job ROCKS and he has a 4-day weekend for the 4th and since it would be crazy to think about going back to work on the 5th after a long night of fun and fireworks, we ended up with a 5-day weekend with Daddy!  We loaded it up with so much summertime fun!

At a surprise swim party for our sweet friend Ed!



When you live in a place with 3-digit heat most of the summer, a nice getaway to cooler temps is AMAZING!  We went to Cloudcroft for a mountain picnic. It was GLORIOUS! 

A little tree climbing! 







Hiking with Mommy! 

It wouldn't be a day in our life if there wasn't some sort of ruckus to sort out.  When we got home, the girls brought me this.  This would be about 10 My Little Ponies shmooshed together with a handful of Bunchems.  Do you know about Bunchems? Well, they are super fun and the girls really love them. HOWEVER, they usually only play with them under my supervision.  Unfortunately, Ellie always finds a way. *sigh*  Ken and I tried for about an hour to salvage what I could but in the end, we had to break the news.  It was either throw away the bunch or cut the ponies' hair.  Ellie hated both plans and Sophia, always reasonable, thought that cutting the hair would be the best choice. 
I set out the ponies with their new dos in front of the girls and asked them to close their eyes.  When they opened them, Sophia thought it was hilarious and Ellie went through all of the emotions before settling on hysterical crying because she didn't want "boy ponies." Teachable moment? Sure.  We told her that MANY girls also have short hair.  Finally, she decided that her Barbie, who had also been thrown in the mix, looked like Ellen, her favorite person :) 

For the 4th, we started the day with a Patriotic breakfast and ended up not taking one other picture all day!  That's a sign of a GREAT day!  Having so much fun swimming, grilling, swimming, drinking, swimming, laughing, swimming, and lighting fireworks that you forget to look at your phone much less take pictures is a good sign of a great holiday :)
Daddy's last day off was pretty much rinse and repeat with the addition of a makeover session by sweet Sophia.  Lookin' good, right? 
Summer 2016 will forever be remembered as The Summer of the Watermelon for us.  I'm a total watermelon snob.  Seedless is the WORST. For some reason for the last several years, all I've seen at the stores here (yeah, we have like ZERO good markets here :( ) all I've found are seedless.  Flavorless, dry, bleh.  This year at Walmart they had a HUGE box of giant SEEDED watermelons!  They were so yummy!!!  The girls and I made our way through about 2/3 of the first one with our lunches.  It was weird that I had to teach them how to spit out the seeds since they had never seen that before.  Ellie thought it was awesome to spit on her plate.  Sophia, on the other hand, couldn't be bothered with such things and asked if I would start taking out her seeds. Um, no. With the last 1/3, I threw it in the blender to make some juice for Watermelon Moscow Mules. Ahhhhhh-MAZING!!  And that little bit of watermelon went a long way in the juice department!  

Anyway, for the 4th weekend, we bought another one with intentions to juice a lot of it for watermelon margaritas (again, Ahhhhhh-MAZING!).  We mentioned to some of our friends that this stash at Walmart was better than normal (apparently we've talked about watermelons and the lack of good ones in LC quite a bit). So they bought one, cubed it up, and brought it the 4th shindig.  After the party, they left us with 2 large containers of cut watermelon plus we had more than half of our own plus the rest of the juice.  Seriously, our entire fridge was filled with watermelon!  A couple of days later, our same friends who were through Texas called to tell us they picked up ANOTHER watermelon so that we could try a true blue Texas watermelon which we've been told are amazing.  We were super excited and grateful AND hysterically laughing because of our never ending flow of watermelons!  Before they dropped it off, I hit the kitchen to figure out what in the world I was going to do with all of this!  I pureed/juiced it all up and headed to Pinterest!  
Did you know that if you throw cubed watermelon in the blender WITH the seeds, the seeds just move around and are not ground up into the juice?  Bet not. I do. 
That afternoon, our friends Sharon & Ed stopped buy to bring our watermelon.  Ed carried it in, set it in the kitchen and said "Let me go get the other one." The other one? WATERMELON FOR LIFE!! Ha!  It's a good thing watermelon is my favorite! 
I feel like I'm somewhere between I Love Lucy and they just keep coming and coming and Ethel (Read: Ken) and I are trying figure out where to stash them, and Bubba. Watermelon Popsicles. Watermelon Sorbet. Watermelon Salad Dressing.  Frozen Watermelon Cubes. Grilled Watermelon Salads...


Our own garden also took off in the last couple of weeks!  I'm notoriously terrible at growing a garden but this year, I'm doing pretty well!  Our zucchini was looking a little sad so I looked online to see if I could green up my thumb a little.  Ours were pretty small and kept yellowing.  Apparently this is due to under-pollination.  Dang it! Bring back the bees!  There were are few solutions but only two of them were really doable. 1) Plant some flowers that attract bees or 2) Hand-pollinate. Want to know how to hand-pollinate a zucchini plant?  Well, here's what you have to do. Find the boy flowers (you know it's a boy because it's on the end of a long skinny stem), pick them off, pull back the petals, then stick the little nub that sticks out in to girl flower which can be found on the end of the stubby stems (actually the zucchinis).  There is a round "hole" inside the girl flowers.  I read this information to Camille as I found it and we were both busting up laughing like middle schoolers.  She told me that after I'm done with my zucchini sex, I needed to come have zucchini sex at her house because she doesn't have the energy for it anymore.  AHAHAAHAHAHAHAH!!!!  But here's the deal - it WORKED!  No more tiny yellow puny veggies, we've got big whoppers coming out EVERY DAY!!!  I may have felt totally weird and SUPER awkward out in my garden, but it was worth it!

This was the final week of NMSU Swim School for us.  It is AMAZING how much the girls have grown from these lessons!  Sophia went from being timid about being in the pool without floaties to swimming laps (both freestyle and backstroke) with amazing form!  She's so excited about it and she's GOOD! We went for two, three-week sessions and decided to take the 3rd session off but Sophia will be right back to it for the fall!  She wants to compete and has decided that she's going to be in the Olympics.  Keep an eye on this one ;)





For Fun Friday, we finished up our lessons about Freedom & Bravery.  I wanted the girls to understand that it's not just in the past that brave people fight for our freedom and for our safety.  I wanted them to know that bravery doesn't just mean fighting in wars.  It's standing up for what we believe even when (or maybe ESPECIALLY when) the easy option is to go along with what others are doing.  It's also doing jobs that protect people on a daily basis. I wanted them to know that freedom doesn't just mean that you aren't ruled by dictator or imprisoned.  It also means that you have the ability to pursue your dreams.  On Thursday, I posted on Facebook that I was looking for names and addresses of service people to send "thank you" notes.  I noted that it could be military, police, firefighters, etc.  We got several responses right away.  The next morning, we woke up to find out about a tragic shooting in Dallas where police officers were specifically targeted.  I reposted and specifically asked for names and addresses of police officers.
I created this simple card.  Ellie colored the front of them and Sophia wrote inside each one.  I wrote out the words for her and she filled them in including the specific names we were sent.  As of today, we have sent out about 18 cards and we have about 15 more that we need to get out on Monday.

Our hearts go out to all families effected and we pray that our county can heal and find a way out of this that doesn't involve any more pain or fear.


Later that afternoon, we watched He Named Me Malala.  I recorded it a long time ago and I was waiting for the right time to watch it with Sophia.  I know some people might think that the content is too grownup for Sophia, but I trust her enough, I know how she thinks, and I want her to understand the real importance of freedom and bravery.  We don't hide the truth of the world from her but we do soften it.  She understands death and has faith in God and the promise of eternal life in Heaven for all that are saved.  When she watched the video, she was very sad in parts, asked a lot of questions, and felt proud of Malala for being brave.  She also immediately recognized immediately how unjust it is for girls anywhere to be denied an education.  We talked about how education itself is a huge key to freedom.  Sophia said "Girls should get everything that boys get. We both have skin and eyes and brains." Yep.

If you're not familiar, Malala is a girl from Pakistan.  Her father is an advocate for education and she followed in her footsteps.  She gained attention for speaking out for the education of girls and as a result, she was shot by the Taliban.  It was a miracle that she survived much  less recovered to the point where today she is a global advocate for girls' education and Nobel Peace Prize winner.



To end the night, we watched the U.S. Olympic Track & Field and Gymnastics trials and had a little girlie time doing our nails ;)